A woman is like a wave. When she feels loved her self-esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. When she is feeling really good, she will reach a peak, but then suddenly her mood may change and her wave crashes down. This crash is temporary. After she reaches bottom suddenly her mood will shift and she will again feel good about herself. Automatically her wave begins to rise back up.When a woman's wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love. This time of bottoming out is a time for emotional housecleaning.
If she has suppressed any negative feelings or denied herself in order to be more loving on the upswing of her wave, then on the downswing she begins to experience these negative feelings and unfulfilled need. During this down time she especially needs to talk about problems and be heard and understood. A woman's ability to give and receive love in her relationships is generally a reflection of how she is feeling about herself. When she is not feeling as good about herself, she is unable to be as accepting and appreciative of her partner.
At her down times, she tends to be overwhelmed or more emotionally reactive. When her wave hits bottom she is more vulnerable and needs more love. It is crucial that her partner understands what she needs at these times; otherwise he may make unreasonable demands.
ch000tz......Self-esteem rises and falls like a free willy wavey. When things is hitting the bottom it is time for emotional and deeply internal housecleaning...1 and for all.
How Men React To the Wave
When a man loves a women, he begins to shine with love and fulfilment. Most men naively expect that shine to last forever. But just like men pull back and then get close, women rise and fall in their ability to love themselves and others. No doubt! A man assumes that her sudden change of mood is based solely on his behaviour. When she is happy he takes credit, but when she is unhappy he also feels responsible. He may feel extremely frustrated because he doesn't know how to make things better. Once minute she seems happy, and so he believes he is doing a good job and then the next minute she is unhappy. He is shocked because he thought he was doing so well.
Don't Try To Fix It
The last thing a woman needs when she is on her way down is someone telling her why she shouldn't be down. What she needs is someone to be with her as she goes down, to listen to her while she shares her feelings, and to empathize with what she is going through. Even if a man can't fully understand why a woman feels overwhelmed, he can offer his love, attention and support.
ch000tz......In relationships, men pull back and then get close, while women rise and fall in their ability to love themselves and others soooo to all MAN, learn to appreciate is much better then doing nothing.
How Men Are Confused
When a woman goes into her well, if she feels supported she doesn't necessarily feel better right away. She may feel worse. But that is a sign that his support may be helping. His support may actually help her to hit bottom sooner, and then she can and will feel better. To genuinely come up she first needs to hit bottom. That is the circle.
A man may get confused because as he listens to her she appeared to get no benefit from his support. To him she just seemed to be going deeper. To avoid this confusion a man needs to remember that sometimes when he is succeeding in supporting a woman she may become even more upset. Through understanding that a wave must hit bottom before it can rise again he can release his expectations that she immediately feel better in response to his assistance.
ch000tz......Even when a man is succeeding in supporting and lovey dooovey a women she may become even more upset or tooooooo manjeeee sometimes, need more and more attention a.k.a ngegadaaaaaa lebih...kataNyerrrr.....so the conclusion: BOTH PARTY please do not take things for granted before it to late...."you knew I knew"
