This article presented appeals to attention of woman & men out there. It is all about communication with the stronger sex representatives should be guided by something that might helps...Jangan degil!
THE RULES OF DEALING WITH WOMAN
1. Never tell a woman there are no people imposible to be replaced. - Ayat poyo!
2. Never make compliments concerning her appearance during the talk over the phone.
3. Never lie on trifles. Save the forces for an emergency occasion.
4. If you have any unnecessary things, never throe them away. Give this prerogative to a woman, presenting her all the odds and ends.
5. Don't ask her opinion on the issue, she will tell you anyway, moreover, every time her attitude towards the problem will be different.
6. Try to avoid suddenness. Remember that the best surprise for a woman is something you told her last month, and continue repeating every day.
7. Never let her think that you can do anything about the house.
8. Never call a woman by her name, you likely to make a mistake.
9. Never send her to but beer - she won't go anyway.
10. Never offer airtight and logical arguments - she will consider you to be an idiot. - Sorry!
11. Never make dubious compliments.
12. Never be overhead and ears in love with a woman. It might become a bad habit, like a cigarette. - Absolutely right!
13. Never tell her she is the best woman you have ever met. She won't believe it. If she does, she will try to find someone better for herself. -Time sayang memang lah semua sweet!
14. Never explain why you love her - she will misunderstand, furthermore she may take offense.
15. Never show a fir of weakness. Dear male reader, remember: there are a lot of women and you are the only one.
ch000tz: best is to learn adapt into each other and be more transparent, I know transparent might hurts more but it might helps you to know your so called 'soulmate' deeply. try lah..
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THE RULES OF DEALING WITH MAN
Have you ever noticed that men and women think, listen and express their emotions differently? Lets try to prevent, or solve some of existing problems in communication.
There's 3 secrets to be reveal clear and loud.
Each secret contains 3 types of information:
a) What is she doing wrong, having not the least idea of men’s habits?
b) How men respond (react) on this?
c) Which decision should one take to find new ways of building relationships?
SECRET #1
It is much easier for men to talk when they see the clear aim of conversation.
It is much easier for men to talk when they see the clear aim of conversation.
Starting conversation with a man, do you notice him to be stressed and confused? He seems to lose control of situation, and play a game without knowing the rules. A woman is likely to start conversation with one of the following phrases:
- Let’s talk
- Dear, I think we have to discuss our relationships.
These expressions are too vague, as they don’t give any direction of conversation. This is how you give birth to men’s fear and uncertainty. He will start to argue with you, trying to postpone conversation, or to show absolute absence of interest.
SOLUTION:
1. When you talk to a man, let him know exactly what you want. Be more concrete; give him a kind of agenda. At least now he knows what it is all about, has more time to think it over, and feels more comfortable.
2. Ask him questions, but not such short-spoken ones. The answer will be “Fine.”
3. Don’t use hints, be clear. Men prefer facts. Be sincere and direct to let him know your thoughts and express his point of view with great pleasure.
ch000tz: ....is gonna be hard esp to those women yang still shy2 cat!
SECRET #2
Man thinks to himself and gives the final answer. -Hrmmm DISLIKE!
Man thinks to himself and gives the final answer. -Hrmmm DISLIKE!
Hiding his fears and uncertainty, your man will never give a rash answer, which is likely to be incorrect. He will not pronounce a word until he comes to the final decision. That’s why you may frequently hear “I need to think about it”. - Unsure!
Woman thinks aloud! The problem is that men direct their efforts towards the result of finding solutions, while women pay more attention to the process itself. Man thinks that woman talks too much, he can express something in 3 words, while she needs 300. He doesn’t understand that discussing of a problem is a part of taking decision process for her; he thinks that you are not able to find solution by yourself and feels obliged to find it for you.
SOLUTION:
1. You have to discuss this secret with him in order to make him understand what it is like to “think a loud”.
2. Don’t forget to find out whether he would like to discuss the issue now or needs time to think it over.
3. Explain that making complaints is your way to release stress and find the right solution. Otherwise, he will feel responsible for making decision for you.
ch000tz: ...just let me talk until m tired!
SECRET #3
It’s difficult for men to express their emotions.
It’s difficult for men to express their emotions.
Why is it so difficult for men to share problems with women?
In the world of emotions men lose control over situation, being not the owners of their status anymore. This feeling put their emotional state under threat, as they don’t have enough skills and experience to cope with it.
Women consider men to be insensible and insensitive. It is important to understand that men callousness is a myth. They are very sensible and sensitive creatures, sometimes even more than women are. You expect the man to clarify his feelings as fast as you do. Most of women have faster emotional reaction, so if a man is not screaming, it doesn’t mean he has no feelings.
If you suppose that a man with high IQ is as subtle a master in expressing his feelings, as he is concerning his job, you are wrong. People should learn to improve their intellectual abilities, feelings and ways of expressing themselves. If you want to speak the same language with your partner, be patient and lead him your way. Learn a lesson from communication with the opposite sex to achieve better results and derive pleasure from them. Understanding of these 3 secrets will help you to build better relationships in you private and everyday life.
ch000tz: I really need a strong pills to flush out and rebuild every single sense in me...>_<
